It seems as though the world gives the wrong picture of sexual intimacy. In an article by Sean E. Brotherson, PhD, he says, “The incessant chatter and noise of the world, Satan, and related sources that constantly hype and sensationalize sexual intimacy with distorted images of sensuality and misplaced or twisted values and expressions of sexuality.” It is a much more sacred and special thing than this and it is sad that so much of the world plays it off as a simple, no big deal, kind of thing.
In his article he was particularly honest with how he was about to get married and had many questions. As he was studying out these questions he asked his mother and aunt what the experience was really supposed to be like. He said her response, “My mother laughed and said that sometimes it was fun, sometimes it was comforting, sometimes it was romantic, sometimes it was spiritual, and sometimes it was just a willingness to love.” Openness and honesty is something that is needed as we teach our children. If we aren’t the ones to be teaching our children, someone else will be and who knows what answer they may give. Turning to the gospel and Christ to get a sense of how you want to teach these things is important. I also like that he mentioned it is okay to talk about these things and read of these things, just make sure you are turning to good sources and trusted adults such as parents.
I have always been really close to my mom, she has been my rock in life. I remember a time in my teenager years when I had some questions and as I turned to the internet it didn’t help answer my questions, but rather made more confusion. I went out that night and talked to my mom and asked her my questions and told her how confusing the internet and things on there was. She answered my questions, like she always does, and I remember her saying, Just come to me always with your troubles and questions. It is okay to have these questions, that is normal. However, we can’t control all that is on the internet and often times that can get us curious and curiosity kills the cat.
Lastly, I Iove this quote by President Howard W. Hunter, “Tenderness and respect—never selfishness—must be the guiding principles in the intimate relationship between husband and wife.”
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